If you share my sentiments, dealing with life altering changes can be difficult to do. Not only difficult but daunting, draining, dreadful, and any other “D’’ letter adjective you can think of. I recently moved from the west coast to the east, after living out west for 4 years. I was gainfully employed, my children were settled into school, and I had a church home, and friends that I knew I would miss dearly. Oh, lets not forget the weather; imagine being able to wear flip-flops all fall and winter long. Sounds like a solid life right? In my adult life, one thing that I have learned is, change is inevitable, and it usually occurs just as you start to get a little comfortable. BAM! Just like that, your world is shaken up a little.
My move to the east coast was due to a mandatory relocation for my husband’s job. Great for him, but my immediate emotion was panic ,as I thought about having to start all over. I had to find a new job, new schools for my boys, new place to live, church, friends, and all the other essentials you can think of with moving across country. Let’s not forget having to adjust to living in a cold weather climate, which I’ve never had to do. The thought of starting over put me in a stupor for a few days as I let the what if’s overcome me. What if I can’t find a job, what if I don’t like the schools, what if we choose the wrong neighborhood. What if I can’t find a midwife that I feel comfortable with, oh yea, we’re expecting!!! Then as quickly as the doubt crept in it, it went away as my heart was convicted with a spirit of gratitude. Things could be a lot worse, and they were by no means bad. My family and I were healthy, my husband was remuneratively employed and could support the family without my income until I found employment, and while we worked out the other details, we had each other. Putting things in perspective, I was grateful.
Even if the change that lies ahead might be the best for you and your family or alternatively, an unexpected or sudden occurrence that has lead you to face change with grief, one thing remains the same, how you cope with the change or the transition makes all the difference.